Parents play an essential role in children’s lives, helping them learn, develop and flourish.
Studies have repeatedly demonstrated the significant effect parental attitudes can have on children’s outcomes, such as warmth and acceptance, permissiveness, and authority.
Example: Children whose mothers work outside the home typically score higher on SAT exams than those whose moms remain at home full time.
Self-Confidence
Children who possess a strong sense of self-worth are more likely to take risks and achieve success in life, being better problem solvers and resilient against obstacles. Parents can assist their kids’ self-confidence development by providing them with a safe and supportive environment, setting realistic expectations, and encouraging them to take responsibility for their actions.
Parents play an instrumental role in building their child’s self-worth. Through words, tone of voice, and actions they convey their children’s value and determine whether or not they can handle challenges successfully. Therefore, it’s crucial that parents demonstrate confidence in themselves as parents while encouraging children to develop self-assurance with regard to making choices of their own accord.
Parental self-efficacy (PSE) and parenting confidence (PC) both refer to the belief of a parent in their ability to perform parenting behaviors that foster a child’s development. Due to overlapping antecedents, attributes, and consequences associated with both concepts, PSE and PC are often used interchangeably when applied in research studies.
PSE and PC can be difficult to distinguish as there are no standardized measures of them. Up until recently, researchers only had access to limited parenting confidence scales designed exclusively for mothers or fathers. The Karitane Parenting Confidence Scale7 is an innovative new measure that uses gender-neutral language for use with mothers and fathers alike, currently being put through psychometric testing to determine its validity and reliability. Further research must be conducted in order to understand sex-specific differences in the antecedents, attributes, and outcomes of PSE and PC. Furthermore, future work should focus on measuring and understanding these sex-specific differences within parenting confidence as this will enhance our knowledge regarding this important intrapersonal construct.
Social Skills
Social skills refer to behaviors and abilities necessary for making friends, maintaining relationships, communicating effectively, and managing conflict effectively. Examples include asserting oneself, listening to others, expressing emotions appropriately, and showing empathy. Children without these capabilities may struggle in school and later find it more difficult to build careers and relationships as adults.
Lacking these skills, children who lack these abilities tend to be more impulsive and have trouble making decisions, as well as having difficulty controlling negative emotions appropriately and channeling them toward appropriate outlets. They might also act out on others inappropriately more frequently and be less likely to take responsibility for their actions – these skills can all be taught.
Parents can start by instilling key social skills into their children, like taking turns and being respectful, as well as learning to apologize when making errors. While this can be one of the more challenging social skills for kids to master, it is absolutely essential; it shows them it is not OK to be selfish and that they must give up some personal interests for the sake of others.
Finally, they should learn how to work as part of a team to meet goals and achieve results. You can teach this at home by cleaning the table together or asking them to wait their turn when playing board games – such activities teach listening and sharing of resources amongst classmates.
Though most kids learn these skills without issue, some don’t. When this occurs it can be seen as a telltale sign that there’s an issue: kids who experience these challenges may become more susceptible to peer rejection, bullying, low academic performance, and may even suffer from mental health conditions like ADHD or autism.
Self-Discipline
Self-discipline is an essential characteristic that will enable children to be successful adults. It teaches kids to control their feelings, impulses, and cravings, and follow societal rules more readily. Parents should teach their children self-discipline using positive discipline methods instead of forcing obedience; for instance instead of telling your child “Come here and listen,” or “Come get your reward,” use techniques such as: “Come listen here or come get it now”.
Parents can help their children develop self-discipline by setting clear expectations and offering regular reminders. Setting up a daily routine that requires children to fulfill their responsibilities systematically may also prove helpful – for instance, reminding your children that their homework must be finished before playing will motivate them to complete it first.
Finally, it’s essential that parents praise their children when they exhibit self-discipline. For instance, when children can save some of their pocket money for later or control their behavior when playing with friends this is a sure sign they are developing self-discipline.
Staying close with your children takes considerable time, patience, and effort – but its long-term rewards are immeasurable. Our ultimate aim should be to produce children who are confident, responsible, and can manage life’s challenges without constant parental intervention. Self-discipline can be taught over time but for maximum effectiveness it should begin early childhood – the earlier you start, the easier it will become part of your character and life experience.
Independence
From an early age, children often display a strong desire for independence – a natural part of growing up that should be supported. From babies who attempt to feed themselves independently to toddlers attempting to put on their coats by themselves independently – giving children opportunities to make decisions and do things alone is an invaluable way of building their confidence and self-esteem.
Children who never develop the freedom to do things on their own cannot build an “inner locus of control.” As such, when they encounter hardship in life they will likely feel powerless to cope and may turn anxious, passive, or depressed; when given opportunities to grow independently however they are more likely to develop resilience that leads to health outcomes and resilience.
Allowing children to develop independence can be challenging for parents who want their child(ren) safe from harm, yet need them independent. By setting clear family rules about appropriate actions and behavior as well as making clear that there will be consequences when inappropriate actions or statements occur, parents can make encouraging independence simpler for their child.
Rewarding children who attempt to do things independently gives them a sense of achievement while building self-confidence is especially crucial for disadvantaged kids. As soon as children can do things on their own, less time will need to be spent with parents allowing more time for schoolwork, hobbies, or other pursuits.
Responsibility
Parenthood can be both rewarding and harrowing at once; parents need access to shared knowledge, community resources, support systems, and policies that encourage family well-being to help navigate it successfully.
Parents’ natural parenting skills and knowledge are vitally important. Yet the ways they think, feel, and act can have a dramatic effect on their children’s behavior – even when they don’t realize it themselves. A great way for young children to influence this is by setting an excellent example by acting with positive, respectful behavior toward others – for instance saying thank you and please to store clerks, drivers, and waiters when appropriate.
Parents’ attitudes and beliefs regarding parenting are also of great significance. Their perspectives can either be formed from personal experience, or taken from information found through books and websites; their general attitudes or specific thoughts could either hinder or aid their children’s development.
To develop concrete recommendations to bolster parental capacity, the committee reviewed both research and evidence-based strategies, such as manualized parenting programs and more general family support interventions. Though not an exhaustive examination of parenting-related studies, its members focused on those that best met its statement of task and offered a clear picture of what is known about parenting. They also explored impactful policies and programs related to parenting that existed at federal, state, and local levels as well as in private philanthropy/business and public education/health/human services systems.